Unity Church of Ames


Letting Go of Holding On

Mid Week Faith Lift

January 1, 2014

Letting Go of Holding On!

Rev. Deb Hill-Davis & Su Podraza-Nagle

Happy New Year!  Let’s start with the alternative words of the song penned by a Unity minister, Rev. Alicia Leslie, that inspired this morning’s service:

To tune of “Let it snow! Let it snow! Let it snow!”

When your kids are already griping,
and your sanity they’re swiping,
and your spirits are really low,
Let it go, let it go, let it go.

When your boss is so overbearing,
and you find you’re way past caring,
before you just let it blow,
Let it go, let it go, let it go.

When you feel like you’re on a wave,
And you’re either way up or way down,
If you wonder what normal is,
Just take a good look around.

For everyone’s got a problem,
and there ain’t no way to dodge ’em.
so instead of you gettin’ low,
Let it go, let it go, let it go.

All the energy you’ve been wastin’
When you try anticipatin’
You can give it to God you know,
Let it go, let it go, let it go.

 

If you were not able to attend the service, I would invite you to sing this before continuing to get yourself in a frame of mind to begin to be ready to think about considering the possibility that you might let go of holding on to whatever is left over from 2013!

 

We began the service by Su helping me drag a heavy suitcase filled with everything I was going to carry with me from 2013 into the New Year!  Here is the dialogue that followed…

Letting Go of Holding On…….

Revy. Debbie:  As we come to the end of 2013, we are getting ready to let go of the old year and welcome the new.  The real question for each of us is how much stuff from the old year do we want to take into the new year with us?  Well, I’m ready….I’ve got it all packed in here!

Su…..What in the world do you have in here?!?

Revy. Debbie….We just sang about letting go….and that sounds all good and nice and really spiritual…..take the high road,,,,,,and of course I’m the minister and I “Should do that!”  BUT I DON WANNA…..there are SOME things I just don’t want to let go of……

SU:  Well guess what,,,,,,,,WHAT YOU RESIST PERSISTS?!?!?

Revy Debbie:  OMG….You are kidding aren’t you…..whatever I hold onto I get MORE OF?  That CAN”T be true, can it?  Please tell me it isn’t…..

Su….Whatever you give your attention to, put your energy behind, well you get more of THAT….like it or not!

Remember, The Unity Principle, “We create our life experiences through our way of thinking.”

Oh and lets not forget the “Law of attraction”

Revy Debbie:  Well I don’t like it….and well, sometimes you just CAN’T let go…

Su….Really…..so gimme a for instance…

GRUDGES

Revy Debbie…..Well, my family for instance……(and then I go on and on about a grudge against my ex husband:  He didn’t help pay for college, no real support, he moved away when they were in middle school.  “Don’t you think he’s awful ?  There’s at least 25 pounds and $40,00 of resentment in that suitcase….and I feel VERY justified in that!!”

Su….well, maybe….but you will never have any peace in you without forgiveness…when you have been holding on for a long time….forgiveness is about the only way to get off that hook… listen to what Jesus had to say about that…..

 Then Peter came and said to him, “Lord, if another member of the church[a] sins against me, how often should I forgive? As many as seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven[b] times. Matthew 18:21-23  (NRSV)

Oh, and let’s not forget what Myrtle Fillmore had to say in her book, How to Let God Help You:

            Should we always be sweet and forgiving?   Yes, but not necessarily without backbone and individual conviction.  Be sweet and know that it is the expression of the Christ Ideas in your consciousness.  Be forgiving because the True Light reveals the fact that others are only children experimenting, trying to use what God has given, and dependent to some extent upon this discipline and help which comes from bumping up against others.  Forgive because you can see the Real and because your forgiveness is the remission of error as far as you are concerned, and because it does work mightily to change the individual who falls short.  Forgiveness is not silent consent, the negative appearance of making the best of a situation while underneath there is resentment.  Forgiveness is the art of putting something else in place of the thing forgiven.  You put the positive realization of Truth of Being in place of the appearance of negation and adversity which your senses and intellectual training report.

Do you think you could do that?

 

DRAMA

Revy Debbie….well here’s another one….at family gatherings I can’t always count on my sister to start the drama…..she is always just ONE snarky remark away from picking a fight….or if not that, it’s the silent treatment….and I am NOT going to let her get away with that… “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!”  I love that one….just do the silent treatment and let them guess what kind of evil things you might be thinking!!

Su……And how’s that working for you?  Where does peace begin?  What brings harmony and serenity to you….more snarky remarks?  And how do you KNOW she meant it that way?  Is it possible you might be misinterpreting what she said?   And is is also possible that YOU might have something to do with making the snarky stuff continue. 
Do you know of the story in the Gospel of John chapter 8 verse 7, about Jesus and the woman being stoned for adultery….and as they were all getting ready to throw their stones, Jesus said to them ”Let him who is without sin cast the first stone” and they all put their stones down!  How about that?!?

DYSFUNCTION

Revy Debbie…Well, you’re no fun!  What about at work when people don’t do what they are supposed to do, or even worse, when they try to tell ME what to do?  Like I should listen to that?  What if they don’t do it right?  I suppose you’re gonna tell me that it’s all MY fault and I have something to do with things falling apart…..Are you gonna take the FUN out of Dysfunction?

Su…..Well, there you go again….putting words in my mouth….you can have all the dysfunction you want….people don’t change overnight, not without Divine Intervention anyway….but as long as you hold on to OLD Patterns, well you’re gonna keep gettin what your gettin!  Do you really LIKE it?  IS it working for you?

Remember, The Unity Principle, “We create our life experiences through our way of thinking.”  What are you co-creating ?

FEAR

Revy Debbie….Not much that is good really, but I am not sure what else to do…..and I am really scared that if I try something different, I will screw it up big time and then NO ONE will love me at all… I am afraid that if I don’t keep a good defense, then people will take advantage of me and if I don’t worry about things and try to manage and control it all, well then things will just fall apart.  And at the very bottom, if it falls apart, then no one will love me, if they even love me now…and I am not so sure they do….. I sometimes feel afraid that if people really knew me, they wouldn’t even like me, much less love me!

Su……..But Revy Debbie, there is only love….

There is only love. Why, it’s even the greatest Commandment!  When we as human beings, forget our spiritual being-ness,   we end up with a perception of fear. False Evidence  Appearing Real.  When we re-center ourselves through prayer and meditation, we have an opportunity to reconnect.  We return to the Truth that is. 

Let me read to you what Emily Cady says about this in Lessons in Truth:

            We are well into the process of growth into our highest possible manhood and womanhood and we get many falls and bumps along the way.  But only through these, not necessarily by them, can our growth proceed.  Father and mother, no matter how strong or deep their love, cannot grow for their children.  Nor can God, who is omnipotent at the center of our being grow for us without making us automatons instead of individuals.

            If you keep your thoughts turned toward the external of yourself or others, you will see only the things that are not real.  Those things are temporal, and they pass away; all the faults, the failures or lacks of people that seem very real to you.  And that is what makes you unhappy inside.  If you turn your thoughts away from the external toward the spiritual, and let them dwell on the good in yourself and others, all the apparent evil first drops out of your thoughts and then out of your life.

It’s an inside job, it is inside of you and inside each and every one of us.

 

Revy Debbie….So you’re sayin’ that takin’ a spiritual path, using prayer and meditation, I can start to change how my life works?  I can’t change what anyone else does, but I can change what I think, how I see things?  Is that it? 

Su…..Well it works for me….and I continue to pray and meditate  it keeps working….

Revy Debbie…..well….let’s give it a try….maybe if I just start to decide to let go of holdin’ on to all this stuff, at least I can get rid of a little bit of it….I am willing to consider that……

Su…Well, let’s do it….let’s sing into it, about what happens when you pray….